K' s been away over the past weekend, visiting a friend in Surrey (but about as far away from 'domicile-ville' as you can be and still be in Surrey, and I was working lates, so I wouldn't have had the chance to meet up with her anyway). Her friend is transgender, biological male but identifying as female, a situation I've got no experience of at all. K and I spoke briefly yesterday, as she was travelling back to Cornwall, and one of the few things that was said was that she'd met her friend's family, who seemed nice. When we spoke at greater length this evening, though, it transpires that her friend's family are totally unsupportive, and insist on always using her (his) given name and exclusively male pronouns. As per the title of this post, what do they think they're going to achieve? Do they think that she's doing this as some kind of act of 'rebellion', and that if they carry on long enough, she'll see 'the error of her ways' and suddenly go back to being 'normal'? This isn't, as far as I'm concerned, any kind of choice, any more than my being a boylover is a choice. It's an expression of the person we know ourselves to be, and no amount of wishing, hoping or inappropriate pressure is ever going to change that knowledge.
Love & best wishes to all