I've just read a post on a blog I've followed almost from the beginning of my time in Blogland, written by a gay teen here in the UK. It was his second anniversary post, an achievement in itself to stick around for so long, but it was also littered with remarks about 'peds' and 'sad, old perverts'. That must be me, then, especially after my remarks about the boy in the Chinese takeaway earlier. It's a shame that those who wish to be accepted despite their 'differences' are so heedlessly dismissive of others who don't fit the 'normal' template, even for gays. Some, evidently, are more equal than others.
Love & best wishes to all
Sammy B
Sammy,
ReplyDeleteI just read that post. I don't think it was directed at people like you at all. Why not? Well, you don't troll young boys' blogs that write about their sexual experiences and leave comments about said sexual adventures. Nor do you leave comments on blogs like the one you read that would be considered sexual innuendo or worse. That's what he was referring to. As I told him, I've seen some of those types of blogs, and the comments are awful. I've never seen a comment left by you that would approach the nastiness of some of the people out there. So stop reading too much into things. I know that's easy to do, but it's unnecessary. Believe me, if I had any thoughts that you were stalking or perving on guys like R and J and the like, I'd be (one of) the first to call you out!
Peace <3
Jay
Hello Jay
ReplyDeleteIt was the general principle that disappointed me, not any thought that what was said was specifically aimed in my direction. If you feel yourself to be a member of an 'oppressed minority', is the best way to deal with that to lash out at an even smaller and even more hated minority? I would hope not.
I know some of the younger bloggers have had to deal with thoroughly unpleasant and inappropriate comments and e-mails, and that kind of behaviour by supposed 'adults' is inexcusable. But, that said, I didn't choose to be a boylover any more than R chose to be gay, and I don't feel that such off-handed, broad brush remarks about 'perverts' are any more appropriate.
Love & best wishes
Sammy B
After reading that post I think I'm going with Jay, please don't read too much into this. Alright, I know I'm probably the last person on earth that should give you this advice, still...
ReplyDeleteHave a great Sunday!
Love
Daniel
Hello Daniel
ReplyDeleteAs I said to Jay, I'm not taking any of what was said as being anything to do with me personally, in the sense of a 'one-on-one' insult. It's the heedless bandying about of words like 'pervert' that I object to, particularly when the person using those words could be the target of such epithets himself - totally wrongly, of course - from many others. And also the attitude from many, if not most, people that in being a boylover you are automatically assumed to have no morals or self-control whatsoever, and that you're just a 'predator' out looking for his next 'victim'. I've said several times, but I'll say it again, that I'm not interested, at all, in having sex with anyone who doesn't want to have sex with me. If it's not mutual and consensual, it won't happen, as far as I'm concerned.
Love & best wishes
Sammy B
Sammy
ReplyDeleteI've read the blog post in question. I think the author is a product of his times, and, like many teenagers, he has perhaps not had the opportunity or occasion to question and think about all the opinions and prejudices he has received from the world around him. You'll note that he and his friend are using 'ped' to refer to people of their own generation, so the word may not have the same force to them as it does to older readers.
Take care
Mark
Hello Mark
ReplyDeleteIt seems to be unanimous that I've overreacted to what I read, so it's probably true. Without wishing to rehash what I meant by this post again, I was just disappointed by the dismissiveness of the attitudes espoused. That, no doubt, is my problem, and one I'll have to deal with.
Love & best wishes
Sammy B
Hi Sammy,
ReplyDeleteI've seem R post similar remarks before, and I was tempted to call him out on it.
I don't think he meant to be personal, but maybe he's not articulating quite what he means.
I might still ask him, yet.
:-)
-Andy
Oh, btw...
ReplyDeleteI, too, saw absolutely the cutest Chinese boy
(about 16 yo) at my local take away/carry out.
Not usually into Asians, but this kid was angelic.
:-)
-Andy
Hello Andy
ReplyDeleteAs I've said to the others, I have no thought at all that R was aiming at me with what he wrote, but I do tend to get more than a little sensitive sometimes about some of the 24 carat crap that's indiscriminately thrown at boylovers - it's bad enough hearing it from the haters, without those 'closer to home' joining in.
'Chinese takeaway boy' was a customer rather than associated with the establishment - and was very nice to look at.
Love & best wishes
Sammy B